“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.”
― Joel Osteen,
When you get disappointed then it can hurt. Sometimes a bit. Sometimes a lot when Dealing With Disappointment And Hardship
It can drag you down into a negative funk for days or even weeks. People who are disappointed are at greater risk of physical or emotional difficulties
Have you ever been disappointed by something so badly that it feels impossible to let it go? No matter how hard we try to avoid it, disappointment is a part of life. While it’s normal to feel disappointment, learning to experience it and overcome the event is important because holding onto it can have negative effects.
One of the hardest things to do in a world where everything is immediate—we are all under external pressure, and time is a scarce resource—is to just let yourself experience a feeling.
Even at the most difficult times, such as grieving, on average we only allow ourselves 1 to 2 weeks off or work, and then we mostly expect to get back into normality again.
Human beings are not very good at allowing the experiencing of emotions in full without trying to speed up the process. The only time we have this ability in its purest sense is when we are young children who have yet to be told or taught what is socially acceptable.
Children will tantrum and cry and scream, or laugh until it runs out and they are genuinely ready to move on.
why disappointment is good is because it represents an opportunity for growth. Many people get disappointed with something because they view it as a setback. They feel like they have taken a step back from what they want to be.
Building on the studying example above, say you did a lot of prep work for your exams. You had the belief that these actions would result in top results. But instead of achieving that outcome, you fell short of your expectation.
While you may feel disappointed, this experience is showing you that there is an error in your thinking. What you originally thought was sufficient to achieve your goal isn’t. Instead, you may need to increase your input and/or change your approach to get the results you want. Your disappointment is helping you move toward your goals, not away from your goals as you originally thought.
“If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.”
― Henry David Thoreau,
Your experience has allowed you to gain new lessons, whether about yourself, the situation, or the world. You have gained something which nobody else is privy to. How can an outcome be a setback if it gave you something to learn? As the opening quote says, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” With this lesson, you walk away from this experience a better person. You become a stronger individual. You reach a new state of awareness, consciousness, and growth which you have never had before.
Resetting, and starting anew, is a powerful behavior habit. What happens when we reset is that we accept what has happened, and then we commit to moving forward. We don’t live in the past, we take what the past has taught us, but otherwise, we move along. We wake up the very next day as if our whole life is ahead of us and we have the chance to start fresh, and nothing that happened in the past prevents us from creating the life that we have always desired or from accomplishing the goals that we are seeking. Resetting and starting anew prevents us from wallowing in self-pity—a very disempowering activity—but rather forces us to get up, and move forward.